DEALING WITH REJECTION / ASKING SOMEONE TO DANCE

Advantage of the PortStar method # 8
DEALING WITH REJECTION / ASKING SOMEONE TO DANCE

By using the tools of the PortStar method, not only will you overcome the fears and apprehensions that keep most people off the dance floor, or that fear of being rejected that might keep you from asking someone to dance.

Whether you are 15 or 99 1/2 years old, dealing with rejection after you ask someone to dance feels the same. First off, it might have taking you all night to ask that special someone that you want to meet and to get the courage to ask them for a dance, and when you do ask you got turned down “FLAT” and now that walk back to your spot is the longest walk you have ever known.

First off let me say “Relax” it happens, But most of the time it has nothing to do with you. There are a lot of reasons someone might say no to your invitation. For example they might be shy themselves or they may not be comfortable with their own dancing abilities and are afraid to put themselves out on the dance floor. Or it might be something as simple as, they might be having a bad hair day and just don’t want to be bothered, or a list of many, many other reasons.

As I said before, most of the time it as nothing to do with you.

This subject is covered more completely in Disc 1 of my DVD “How To Dance With Two Left Feet”

SMILING…SMILE WHEN YOU LEARN TO DANCE.

Don’t forget to smile when you are learning how to dance with two left feet. During the learning process smiling just naturally relaxes you and the people around you. Remember one of my big mottos, “Dancing is not WORK… it’s supposed to be FUN.” and should be treated that way. When you are learning, smiling, and having fun with it, and you do happen to do something the wrong way, instead or getting angry or frustrated with yourself or your partner, you’ll both just laugh about it (you may even do it again on purpose, and get a bigger laugh) and move on, everybody happy and still “HAVING FUN”

Awkwardness in learning to dance before Chucks DVD

WHY DOES DANCING FEEL AWKWARD? :Whether you are learning to dance or you just feel awkward dancing it always comes to the same thing.When you were a child and you heard music you would feel the natural rhythm of the music and would move in the way that felt natural, as you got older that was replaced withstep...step...step, and people became more worried with where their feet should be in a step,step.step pattern that they forget the most important part ...the natural rhythm...the music.In order to eliminate that awkward feeling in learning and in dancing you need to feel and hear the music so you will know exactly when to move your feet. Not the other way around. That is shown how in Disc One Chapter Six in the DVD "How to dance with two left feet."